Aug 21, 2014
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fuckyourmemes:

jchrostek:

fuckyourmemes:

jchrostek:

the worst hell in this earth is being forced to keep your great sufferings a secret

No it’s not. The worst hell in this earth is the fact that the whole world now thinks telling everyone of their suffering is the best course of action. They tell before they address or even try to address. There is no progress, just moaning.

Going to disagree. Alcoholics Anonymous, the Catholic act of confession, all religion and spiritual therapy stems at its core from the importance of discussion and reconciliation. I’m sure that, to those who have been conditioned to see discussion as something counter to action such as yourself, that the trend of exposing emotionality is seen as “whining.” I posit instead that this is a redeeming of narrative. People need to vent because they need to understand things from their perspective and possibly the perspective of others before they can overcome it properly. Talking through our emotions help us see things clearly and take the best course of action, rather than what a biased, solitary perspective might offer.

Haha. I am not better than anybody. As it seems you’ve had a look at my blog, you would have seen me admit to being quite the asshole on numerous occasions.

What you say is true. Discussion of a problem is needed for reconciliation, and an important step in the healing process. But you have missed the point I have raised. 

The issue is not the discussion of the problem, but he platform and the audience of the discussion. People, especially people on Tumblr, continually reward negativity and heartbreak spilled to them by strangers. In fact, Neuro Typical (NT, on Tumblr) is used as an insult in some circles. There is no incentive to heal, only incentive to continue spilling heartbreak onto the dashboard of strangers.

The problem is so rampant that Tumblr gives the suicide hotline phone number when people search for “depression” and people consistently (see previous posts of mine) ,take part in stunts like “If this gets 25K reblogs, I won’t kill myself.”

Tell me how that is healthy, tell me how never being offered anything but sympathy — god forbid you actually suggest some ways for a person to get help — is good for the soul and I’ll concede my point.

I’m not disagreeing with you that the internet, and sites like tumblr, have contributed to the creation of social groups and patterns that occasionally reward negative thoughts/patterns. Mainly, however, I’d argue that these posts are normally the handiwork of teenagers, young people still developing their understanding of culture and society and highly impressionable to its negative effects. Teenagers have convinced each other to do and think harmful things for as long as there have been teenagers.

Instead of seeing these people as idiots or fools, however, we can find sympathy for them. Sympathy does not, as many people believe, exclude truths that are uncomfortable to hear. Merely, it is offering yourself as a friend, offer feedback in a respectful manner, and accepting that there are no human beings that are infallible.

Posts like that are dangerous, and we should be adamant about trying to build healthy relationships with people. But criticizing a practice, no matter how dangerous or inane, does not require a lack of care, and an openness to listen and engage. All the great men and women in my life taught me that we find true understanding in listening, in empathy, and in imagination.

And, for the record, when I wrote that post, I was thinking more about those who have suffered real-life traumas that are pressured culturally to suppress discussion. There was a very traumatic death in my past that I, to this day, have a very difficult time discussing without suffering anxiety attacks, due to my proximity and involvement to it. I was considering things like the sadness and fear of death, the shame and trauma of rape, racial tensions and microaggressions. Things of that nature.

Aug 21, 2014
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fuckyourmemes:

jchrostek:

the worst hell in this earth is being forced to keep your great sufferings a secret

No it’s not. The worst hell in this earth is the fact that the whole world now thinks telling everyone of their suffering is the best course of action. They tell before they address or even try to address. There is no progress, just moaning.

Going to disagree. Alcoholics Anonymous, the Catholic act of confession, all religion and spiritual therapy stems at its core from the importance of discussion and reconciliation. I’m sure that, to those who have been conditioned to see discussion as something counter to action such as yourself, that the trend of exposing emotionality is seen as “whining.” I posit instead that this is a redeeming of narrative. People need to vent because they need to understand things from their perspective and possibly the perspective of others before they can overcome it properly. Talking through our emotions help us see things clearly and take the best course of action, rather than what a biased, solitary perspective might offer.

Aug 21, 2014
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a doctor’s note

masculinity is an anxiety disorder
that occurs to close to half
the human population,
it is centered on emotional
restraint, due to prevailing
social fears of aggressive
competitions of esteem
and genetic dominance,
in problematic cases it
can lead to desensitization,
violence, abuse, murder,
and the construction of social
orders that punish and suppress
outside cultural communities
in order to belong to social construct
or identity that is superior, thereby
proving worth to an uncaring void,
damaging those with whom it
could, if given a chance to
be exposed, to show weakness to,
could truly love them and release them
from the prison of violence and fear
that swallows them whole
on lonely nights.

Aug 21, 2014
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the worst hell in this earth is being forced to keep your great sufferings a secret

Aug 21, 2014
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give compliments because they are true, not because you will gain something from their saying

Aug 21, 2014
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Bored, so I’m gonna read (I’ve been reading Dune, and that shit is wild) and write in bed. It’s been a weird two days. My dad’s doing alright, I talked to him on the phone today. They kept him another night at the hospital so they could make sure his kidney and livers continue recovering but he seems good. Feel free to message me, guys. I’ll be up for a while.

Bored, so I’m gonna read (I’ve been reading Dune, and that shit is wild) and write in bed. It’s been a weird two days. My dad’s doing alright, I talked to him on the phone today. They kept him another night at the hospital so they could make sure his kidney and livers continue recovering but he seems good. Feel free to message me, guys. I’ll be up for a while.

Aug 21, 2014
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Anonymous asked: The preliminary autopsy reports Brown's arms were in an outstretched position. Facial bruising and scrapes indicate he was moving when he hit the ground, consistent with Wilson's report of him running towards him. Sources also say that Wilson suffered an orbital blowout fracture to his eye socket.

Yes, his arms were outstretched, as multiple eyewitnesses claim he had his arms up in surrender. Facial bruising and scrapes indicate he was moving when he was hit the ground, just as likely to occur when running away from a gun as at it. And for the record, sources can say a lot of shit. Sources say they found Elvis at a diner by my house, according to a sticker I used to drive by. Let’s see his face, let’s see him for god’s sake, and even if he is busted up, which I doubt, the important questions of why the fuck would an unarmed teenager physically assault a cop with a gun when walking home in the middle of the road, and why the fuck did it take close to ten days for us to hear from only one news source that he got hit. 

Look at the other shooting that happened nearby Ferguson. Man had a gun, in poor state of mind, approached officers. Eyewitnesses corroborate that much. But Michael Brown? All we have are damning suggestions and the shittiest counter-arguments, let alone the most balls off the wall retaliation towards civil disquiet this country has seen since Occupy.

Aug 21, 2014
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CNN was on in the cafeteria earlier and it was my first mainstream news exposure to the Michael Brown case (I’ve followed it entirely through the internet), and I thought it was incredibly interesting (and in multiple places problematic). The host seemed to be on the side of the Ferguson protestors (including laughing off the validity of the Fox News story that Wilson was seriously injured, referencing the video where he seems to be standing over Brown’s body, unharmed.)

What bothered me the most was how willing they were to ignore evidence and testimony and go overboard that anything was possible. I mean, I find the suggestion that Michael Brown “charged” Darren Wilson to be laughable.

It boils down, in my mind, to this. You’re an 18 year old black male teenager. You believe (quite correctly) the system is rigged outside your favor and that the police, especially white male police officers, both profile men like you and aggressively engage you. Michael Brown was about to attend college, meaning he was of at least average intelligence (I’m sure he was smarter than average, but I’m being open for the sake of the argument).

Under what situation does a young unarmed man rationalize charging a man with a gun unless to protect another person or himself? Michael Brown, like 99% of us, did not have a death wish. He wanted to go to college, he wanted to go home.

The fact that Wilson supporters are unwilling to believe that Michael Brown was anything more than an animal who snapped and not a human being who was shot six fucking times in broad daylight shows that they are offering any possible explanation without stopping to consider if any human being would fucking act that way.

Aug 20, 2014
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amnesty for kids and teens still learning critical analysis and personal relationship skills who need support and not your shitty neckbeard unconstructive criticism

Aug 20, 2014
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an obituary for dead memories

the stately victorian,
its parlor chairs and photo-books intact,
attracted swarms of white moths
as we burnt that fucker
to the ground.

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